Whenever we feel frustrated with someone it all revolves around “he or she SHOULD do X” what we aren’t saying is “my life would be so much easier if they did X” (there’s also an assumption that they can see exactly what you can see or in other words they know what you know, and that they do know it and that it is easy for them to do it)
This “should” is a huge moral judgement as well because what you’re implying is that if he does X he would be a better person, since he fell short of doing X he’s less of a person. What makes you think you know what any other person should or shouldn’t do? This moralistic judgement can be dissolved if you properly understand property rights violations.
Theoretically (because everything in your head is “theoretical”) there are a million different things said person could do to make your life easier. They could give you $1000, or offer to drive you around, make you lunch, give you a massage.
At the end of the day if they’re not going to do it… they’re just not going to do it.
Most people ask
“How can I get them to do X”
A WAY better questions is
” How can I motivate or incentivise them so that they want to do XYZ?”
If you can’t get them to WANT to do it then it’s not worth bothering because the only way you will get someone who doesn’t want to do something is to use force or manipulation. And if you have to rely on coercion then that thing (XYZ) that you want them to do probably isn’t going to destroy you if they don’t do it.
If you are at the point where it would irreversibly impact you then you took a bunch of wrong steps to get to this point… I’d try finding a different way first.